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Something important I learned, every man should think about

I am at times very ignorant. One of the things I love about the internet, tumblr and twitter is that in many ways it’s raised my consciousness to issues I was unaware of prior. 

This week my friend and I went out to one of the bars, after Comic Con at one point a couple and their friend came and set down beside us at the bar. Shortly thereafter the friend came back from the bathroom  upset at an encounter she had with a gentleman in the bar, who was overly friendly with her. 

She then asked if I would pretend to be her boyfriend/husband if this person came by. Sure enough the guy came by again. We saw him heading our way she leaned closer and i put my arm on her chair back. He came by and started on her again, and I then had to nicely ask him to leave my wife alone. 

The guy started asking questions, and talking about her tattoo. Once again I had to say that was our business and i wasn’t playing his game and then turned away and continued talking to her and paying him no mind until he left.

The next morning I called my wife, and was very open with her about the situation. It just felt odd to me, and wrong not to tell her about it.  She then explained to me that it was a very common situation and that when she travels with her girlfriends have to find a sober gentleman to stand near them or help out with overly friendly guys.

I read online about guys hitting on girls in bars and saying things that were inappropriate but I hadn’t grown up in the bar scene. I’m 39 and been married almost 18 years. I had not been exposed to anything like this since I’ve only been to bars with other married friends. I had missed the exposure to understand the actual problem.

I think if you had asked the guy in the bar he would have said he did nothing wrong, he didn’t touch her, or say anything dirty. What he didn’t see  or at least comprehend was how uncomfortable he made her feel. 

I was shocked to learn just how common this inappropriate behavior is. That so many women have been put in this situation that many feel their only recourse is to ask a stranger to pretend to be with them so they can enjoy their evening.

I don’t have a massive following so I know this won’t be read by 100’s, it won’t be retweeted and alter the world. That said - I am sorry that this is something that I didn’t really get until this weekend and I hope that maybe one guy reads this and learns something by it. That he doesn’t have to wait till he’s almost 40 to realize how common an issue this is. People should be able to have a good time without feeling uncomfortable.

cornflakepizza:

lillyhasatumblr:

andiameverything:

spacelionsgetscared:

oh fuck every time i see it i laugh so fucking hard. i have to reblog this every time. i can’t not reblog this
lOOK AT THE GUY IN THE BACKGROUND HE’S LAUGHING HIS ASS OFF

this is so great omg

He looks at his hand like it’s the first time he’s ever seen it.

jaydick, except i can’t decide if dick is the one staring at his hand, shocked by jay’s audacity, or the guy laughing hysterically in the background, using the squad car to prop himself up so he doesn’t double over from laughter,

I so needed this this morning

cornflakepizza:

lillyhasatumblr:

andiameverything:

spacelionsgetscared:

oh fuck every time i see it i laugh so fucking hard. i have to reblog this every time. i can’t not reblog this

lOOK AT THE GUY IN THE BACKGROUND HE’S LAUGHING HIS ASS OFF

this is so great omg

He looks at his hand like it’s the first time he’s ever seen it.

jaydickexcept i can’t decide if dick is the one staring at his handshocked by jay’s audacityor the guy laughing hysterically in the backgroundusing the squad car to prop himself up so he doesn’t double over from laughter,

I so needed this this morning

(via arkhamboundz)